men and boys i have known
a summer afternoon yellow curtains fluttering a gentle grey as the sun slid quietly behind a cloud that time you stood feet planted, unwavering in the galeforce rage feeling small your heart aching...
View ArticleResolution
“As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don’t deserve resolution; we...
View Articlebeing a ‘buddhist’
A friend sent me this quote from Tricycle. “Dharma is not about credentials. It’s not about how many practices you’ve done, or how peaceful you can make your mind. It’s not about being in a community...
View ArticleI made a poster to hang up at work
I made a poster to hang up at work. It says, roughly this. Only prettier. May the work we undertake today be for the benefit of all beings. May challenges remind me that all beings face challenges. May...
View ArticleSteel City Ruby 2013
I haven’t finished making maitria.com work, but then I realized I could easily post stuff here. So here you go! This is the list of things (that I expect to be) referenced in my talk at Steel City Ruby...
View ArticleSpeaking up
Last winter, some shit went down at a developer conference. It’s the kind of shit that goes down all the time. Women, I would bet most of the women in your life, know what it feels like to be...
View Articlethe listening game
Wonder how two people who are very angry can listen to each other, and maybe get to a place where each sees the other, their humanity, how they’re connected? Here’s something to try… Groundrules &...
View ArticleMy concerns about TRUCEconf
A bunch of folks are asking why some people are angry about @TRUCEconf. Here’s what I come up with when I imagine being in the shoes of one of those folks who are angry. - the organizer hasn’t...
View Articlea boy did a thing
Background: A 22 year old guy named Elliot Rodger killed some people, after posting a video saying “it’s not fair” that women don’t give him love and sex. I’m gonna give you some of my perspective...
View Articlebeing white in america
I have been afraid to write about being white for a long time. When Trayvon Martin went down, I wanted to write, and reconsidered. (In my head: “Not a good idea to write when you’re angry.” “There...
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